Allegations: If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about?
We’ve discussed allegations before. But they are a big part of the process in the Family Court so they are worth re-examining.
You’re not perfect and nor is anyone else. However if you are in the Family Court it is likely you will face allegations. Not even the man or lady behind the big desk is without fault – but they aren’t a party to proceedings. You are just an average man or woman doing their best albeit facing the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. You’ve made mistakes as you are only human.
It’s a sad truth that any mistakes you have made (and often are) magnified, illuminated and explored when it comes to Family Law proceedings.
There’s a sad inevitability here.
The court considers the best interests of the child. The court has to consider any factor that would affect this – including the behaviour and words of any party involved in the case. And considering these factors takes time and requires examination.
Avoid having to deal with unnecessary allegations
It’s worth remembering too that there is seldom any sanction for making an allegation – but much to gain (if gain’ means the court making an order you like). Even if they turn out to be false. As the old saying goes `If you sling enough mud some may stick’.
As always, we’re big on personal responsibility here at Family Law Assistance Towers. Which means your ex is responsible for what he/she does or says. In the same way you are.
So in a nut shell: Don’t give the other party ammunition. You will likely have enough to deal with without making it harder for yourself.
The court won’t accept any extenuating circumstances for poor behaviour on your part. Reasons that won’t be accepted include:
- He/she provoked you.
- You were upset.
- The ex needed to be shown what it felt like to be on the receiving end for once.
- It was the drink/drugs.
- You had no choice.
How to avoid allegations
Not sure what to do in any given situation? Easy. Avoid any unnecessary communication with the other party. Ask yourself at every turn `How would this look in court?’. Is this child-focused (if it’s a child matter)?
It’s as simple as that.
You cannot stop allegations being made against you. You don’t need to prove they didn’t happen. But you can control how you react.