Divorce? It’s easy to forget: Not everyone has the same area of expertise as you and doesn’t take for granted the same stuff.
We’re called `Family Law Assistance’. Because unsurprisingly enough…we assist people with Family Law. It’s something we deal with on a daily basis.
But despite the bulk of our work concerning children, arrangements concerning them is just one of the three different strands (if you’re married) that need dealing with.
These three strands are:
How these are dealt with depend on your own particular situation. Things like…do you agree on them? Are you amicable? What the circumstances of your situation? What is the situation with assets? Liabilities? At least two of them can apply to unmarried couples too (for our more legally minded friends we’re talking about TOLATA and Schedule 1 Applications).
Timing is crucial too…so it’s often a case of judgement and not simply knowledge of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 or what forms to fill in and how.
The three strands of divorce: Spot the odd one out
OK, OK. Bit of a trick headline there.
But the court really wants you to agree on things without it having to get involved as much as possible. They’re overstretched, under budgeted and besides…you’re much more likely to stick to an order if you are actually happy with it – which is where agreement comes in.
But for the sake of drawing a line on a marriage there does need to be a certain amount of paperwork.
So there does need to be a piece of paper that says you’re actually divorced.
And there needs to be something that says you’re not the financial liability or beneficiary of your (now ex) spouse’s money woes or otherwise.
Children though…agree the arrangement between yourselves and it’s not the business of anyone else’s. You can (and should!) work with your ex partner to raise your children as best as you can despite going your separate ways.
You don’t need an order for your children. You don’t need use to help you with that if you agree with your ex and you don’t need a solicitor.
Divorce: The wrap up
The take home from this post is straightforward:
- When most people talk about `divorce’ the usually mean the whole lot – divorce itself, money and children.
- Unmarried people can (but don’t have to) deal with money and children.
- Agreeing stuff is better, faster and cheaper than involving us or a solicitor.
- It is possible.
As always…keep things amicable where ever possible!