How do I stop my ex moving away with the kids?
We get this asked a lot. From our (own biased) point of view there is a good chance that following the separation of their parents a child will be moved a distance away from where they were previously by the resident parent (or since the changes in the last few years `The parent the child lives with’).
Please note this post only related to moves within jurisdiction (i.e. children habitually resident in England & Wales who are being moved away – including to Scotland and Northern Ireland. There’ll be a post about kids being uprooted to Australia and the like in the future).
Why? Well – it doesn’t really matter when you get right down for it, but the following jusitifcations are used:
- I want a fresh start somewhere new.
- I can move closer to my family and/or support network.
- I want to.
- Because my new partner has a job 400 miles away and he/she can’t get a new one.
- Because I have been offered a job 400 miles away and I get one anywhere closer.
So how do you stop them? The answer is `With great difficulty’. You’ll need to submit a C100 to ask for a Prohibited Steps Order – or a C2 for one as a variation if there is a live case.
If you are a non resident parent (as was) don’t think a contact order won’t effectively be torn up will stop a move. It will be if you aren’t careful.
If it results in contact reducing or stopping the court won’t care. It will probably not order the resident parent to do the travelling either…that’ll be down to you. Like it or lump it. Which means the onus is on you. Your options are therefore:
- Make an application for a PSO (recommended).
- Make plans to and follow through with moving too (recommended).
- Accepting a reduction or stopping of contact (guess)
Don’t get me wrong. You will almost certainly fail in your bid to get a PSO granted. It does happen but don’t count on it. Hope for the best, plan for the worst and all that. Use the time that the application takes to do your research. New places to live, new places to work, support networks to build. Applying for a PSO will do the following:
- Give you extra time.
- Give you more information about what is going on.
- Register your disagreement with the move (not doing anything counts as agreement, kids!)
- Provide you with additional evidence of the hostility towards you (if that is the case).
So what are good reasons to oppose a move?
Your children will be uprooted from their family. From their school. From their friends. From the home they have known for so long. To an area they don’t know filled with people they don’t know. This argument is stronger if your children have strong links to the area they live in – lots of friends, families, activities and an education that will be disrupted by being removed from one school and placed in another (particularly if exams are in the offi
As always, use the Welfare Checklist as your guide.
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