Do you see blue sky or clouds?

What would you do if you had a fresh start?

What if? What if today was a new day and the past didn’t affect it? Or tomorrow? Or any other point in the future?

What if you felt free from the constraints that have left you tired, worried and drained? How would that feel? What would you do?

Is how you feel is your choice – or someone else’s?

It’s a good question. People will usually respond with phrases like `You can’t control your feelings’. Or My ex makes me feel like this’ or – and in line with what these webpages are actually about and what you’re likely here to gain a little insight in – `I’ve got a two day trial coming up and I am terrified my kids will never see me again how the hell do you expect me to feel???’

Like I say – it’s a fair point.

Backtrack for a moment…

Start small. What if you got a flat tyre? Would it ruin your day? Would you conclude being miserable the rest of the day benefited you? No? How about your favourite pet dying (remember – we have  too many cats here so we’re definitely animal lovers!) How long would you need to be utterly miserable to do them justice.

Or would you stick your head in the sand and hope it all gets better on it’s own?

How would it be if you could wave a magic wand and be OK with these things? Not happy necessarily…but OK – able to deal with the day to day stuff and move forward with your life and your plans?

What would you lose by doing this? What would you gain?

2019 is just around the corner. Exciting opportunities to join a gym, lose weight, stop smoking and be a better person and all that. But we all know that it’s just a number on a calendar don’t we? Today is always a good time to start. It’s a choice you can make. And only you.

Looking for answers on a blog post(!) is pointless if you aren’t the change you want. We can give you excellent case law. Help you fill forms in. Help you negotiate in a court hearing, deal with paperwork and tell you when to let it slide.

But it all comes from you.

If you’re scared by this prospect, or angered by it (thinking `I have no power’) ask yourself why you feel the way you do and what you would do if things were otherwise…

Full Moon Coaching

Empower yourself!

We’ve found this such a powerful and insightful tool for many of our clients that we’ve trained to help people with this sort of thing and started a new company. We’ve already helped people change their mindset when it comes to their lives and got some pretty spectacular results. We’re so excited about this we’ve started a new company because it’s not just about court cases and grind – it’s about something much more powerful:

You.

So make today count. Worry about Deal with tomorrow when it comes. And live in the moment.

When things can get no worse

Rock bottom

It can be a liberating, feeling things can get no worse. In the moment you feel that you’ve lost everything freedom awaits.

If your children are not seeing you at all – you’re not going to lose any more contact. If you’ve lost your home – it can’t be taken from you. If you’ve lost a relationship you deeply wanted – time will heal all.

We’ve been there.

But while you feel you are at the bottom it’s easy to feel like it is the end. It doesn’t have to be.

An open door - all you need to do is go through it

An open door – all you need to do is go through it

The end?

So it’s paradoxical. The moment you feel you have lost everything could and should be the moment you feel the slate has been wiped clean, you have nothing to lose and nothing you do is going to make anything worse (of course…act unwisely things won’t get worse but otherwise they can get better).

In the instant you could feel utterly powerless you could instead feel empowered like you have never been before.

`OK’ I hear you say – `What’s the point of all this?’ I hear you say?

Simple!

The beginning

…and the answer is…`It’s all up to you’.

Or more accurately – it’s all about mindset. It’s all about perception. It’s all about how you frame things. Of course, it’s easier said than done but it is possible. What would it be like if you were happy despite what was going on around you? What would it be like if you felt relaxed about the future and whatever it (or your ex) threw at you? What if?

Well…for a start we’d be out of a job here at Family Law Assistance. Because our clients’ cases would be shorter; they’d handle whatever they faced in a calm and calculated manner, they’d realise that most of what worried them in the past was just something to deal with.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.

The power

You have the power. We can only show the door but you have to walk through it. And a great place to start is to come and meet us on Saturday, 19th January 2019 in Manchester. One day. Less than the cost of an hour with a solicitor or one of us attending a hearing with you. The cost of a great night out.

See you there. We’re truly excited about how the last workshop went in Newport and we’re looking forward to the next one – to see the transformation of the lives of those who attend.