Finding that lost dog in Arizona or contact with your children?
Contact with your children is the most important thing in the world to you. Not seeing them has caused you to fall into depression. Put you into debt. Ruined friends and relationships. Generally turned your world upside down.
And yet when it comes to doing something about it you do stuff that isn’t going to help. This includes (but isn’t limited to):
- Going on holiday during a crucial part of your case.
- Deciding to print your documents the morning of the hearing.
- Not asking the boss for some time off to do stuff that needs doing because he may say no.
- Turning up late.
- Not looking after crucial documents .
Rabbit in the headlights?
Every action has a reason behind it. When people do this sort of thing it’s usually because they don’t want to go to the damn hearing or deal with the horrible paperwork. We don’t blame them for that. It’s a normal (and sane!) reaction when faced with something unpleasant. (It’s different for us. It’s our job and we stay neutral when you’re feeling under pressure).
But how would it be if dealing with these horrible jobs made you gain the feeling that you’ve seized control of the situation? That you’ve ticked something else off the list of things that need to happen to achieve your goals.
And this is something you can do that will help your situation with zero legal knowledge, help from people like us or anything like that. It’s free.
The above is easy to say but can be more challenging to do. But it is possible. Because it’s a mindset thing. And you’re in charge of your mind. Whether it is deciding to give the ex’s solicitor both barrels, telling the judge like it is or choosing to be happy when others wouldn’t be – it’s down to you.
The longer we’ve assisted people the more we’ve realised the more responsibility you take for yourself, the more power you have.
This post comes off the back of a conversation with a colleague who said how frustrated when people seemingly do things to damage their own situations. If the above applies to you…what can you do to make sure you’re making it that little bit easier?